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- 1. He rohe kei a koe, ka mohio koe ki te tiaki.
- 2. E mohio ana koe ki te whakapuaki i o hiahia me o hiahia
- 3. He tangata pakeke kare koe me te tumanako mai i to hoa aroha.
- 4. He whakaaro koe mo te whanaungatanga hauora
- 5. Ka kite koe i to hoa noho, kaore he whakapaipai.
- 6. He pono o tumanako
- 7. He atawhai koe
- 8. He waimarie koe
Ki to whakaaro he waimarie to hoa ki a koe? Tena pea, i muri i to panui i te patai, ka tuohu tonu koe i to mahunga. Heoi, ka mahara ratou ki ta raua hianga ki tana tane, i a ia e whakarite ana i te parakuihi mo koe, ka pokea e ia te kihini katoa. Mo te meka kaore ano kia whakahiatohia te whatanga, ahakoa kua patai atu te wahine ki a koe mo taua mea kotahi rau nga wa. Ae, kaore he tangata e tino tika ana, a kaore e hiahiatia ana: i roto i te whanaungatanga, he mea nui ke atu.
1. He rohe kei a koe, ka mohio koe ki te tiaki.
E kore koe e «tupu» ki te hoa, me te kore e ora tona ora; kia mohio kei hea i roto i to takirua tetahi "ka mutu" ka timata te tuarua. Ehara koe i te wuruhi mokemoke, engari he motuhake koe. Kei te tino whai waahi koe ki roto i te hononga, engari ehara i te mea ka whakawhirinaki tahi koe.
E hiahia ana koe kia harikoa to hoa, engari kare koe e patu i ou ake hiahia ki te pai, ki te whakamarie ranei ia ia. Kei te tino mohio koe he aha taau e hiahia ana me ko wai o o hoa me o whanau ka kite, a kaore koe i te rite ki te whakakore - kaore to hoa e tono.
2. E mohio ana koe ki te whakapuaki i o hiahia me o hiahia
He maamaa, he marama hoki to korero mo nga mea e pai ana ki a koe i roto i to whanaungatanga me nga mea kaore. Ka mahi tuwhera koe, ka mohio koe ki te tohe ki a koe ano, engari kaore koe i te pukuriri. Kare koe e hoki whakamuri noa ki te karo i te pakanga. I tua atu, he pai koe ki te whakarongo me te kaha ki te titiro ki tetahi ahuatanga ma nga kanohi o te hoa.
3. He tangata pakeke kare koe me te tumanako mai i to hoa aroha.
Ko koe me koe anake te kawenga mo to ahua, kare me te whanonga. He pakeke koe — i te nuinga o te waa — kaua e waiho o raru katoa ki to hoa.
I te wa e raruraru ana te tangata e arohaina ana, kua rite koe ki te whakarongo me te tautoko i a ia, engari i te wa ano ka mohio koe he tangata motuhake ia, he kawenga mo ana whiringa me ana whakatau. Kei te tumanako koe kia rite ano te tautoko, me te kore e mahi hei "maatua" tetahi ki tetahi.
4. He whakaaro koe mo te whanaungatanga hauora
He maha e tino mohio ana kaore i te waimarie i roto i te aroha, no te mea i te wa o te tamarikitanga i tangohia e ratou he tauira noa o te whanaungatanga i waenga i te tane me te wahine. Ko te tikanga, he mea nui i te wa e kingi ana te kotahitanga, te mohio tahi me te aroha i roto i te whanau matua, engari ka taea e ia o taatau te hanga i o taatau ake tauira o te whanaungatanga hauora, ma te whakawhirinaki ki nga momo «puna» — tuhinga (tae atu ki te hinengaro), nga tauira o te nga tokorua mohio.
5. Ka kite koe i to hoa noho, kaore he whakapaipai.
Kaore koe e tatari mo te tangata e arohaina ana e koe ki te whakatuwhera pono me te mohio ki o raatau kaha. E kore koe e whai ki te hanga i tetahi atu i roto ia ia: ahakoa puta ke te ahua o te tangata, ka mau tonu a roto. Na kua rite koe ki te whakaae me te muru.
6. He pono o tumanako
He tika tonu to whakaaro ka mau o taurangi to hoa, engari kare koe e whakaaro ka whakatauhia e ia o raru katoa ka whakaora ia koe i nga awangawanga me te ahotea. A, ki te mea, hei tauira, kei a koe nga paerewa o te raupapa i roto i te whare, kaore koe e riri ki to hoa aroha ina puta ana kaore e taea e ia te pupuri.
7. He atawhai koe
He tino atawhai koe me te mahi i nga mea mo to hoa me te kore e uihia, e whakamaharatia ranei. Ka hoatu e koe nga mea pai katoa, engari ki te rohe whaitake, me te kore e pehia koe ki te maturuturu whakamutunga. Ka hoatu e koe to hoa ki to wa, to kaha, to tautoko me to aroha.
8. He waimarie koe
I roto i te aroha, he huānga o te waimarie: ka taea e tatou te tangata tino ataahua o te ao, engari ehara tenei i te mea ka aroha te hoa ki a tatou kia rite ki ta tatou e tika ana. No reira, ki te noho tahi o korua kare-a-roto me o korua whakaaro ki a raua ano, me mihi koe.