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Ko te hoa pohewa, he hoa tupu
Ka noho a Clémentine ki te tepu, ka tuu he turu mo Lilo. Ka noho kau te tuuru? He mea noa: ko Clémentine anake ka kite i a Lilo, kare nga pakeke e kite. Ko Lilo tana hoa pohewa. |
"I te wa e hangai ana e te tamaiti 4, 5 tau ranei he hoa pohewa, ka whakaatu ia i te mahi auaha: kaore rawa i te awangawanga", e kii ana a Andrée Sodjinou, kaimätai hinengaro haumanu. Ko te hoa pohewa he hoa nana e tautoko ana i tana whanaketanga, he alter ego ka taea e te tamaiti te whakatau i nga raruraru kaore e taea e ia anake te whakatutuki. He hononga motuhake to te tamaiti ki a ia, ka taea e ia me tana tare, tana pea teddy ranei, haunga tera he hoa te hoa pohewa, ka taea e ia te tohu i ona ake wehi, i ona ake kare-a-roto. Ko tenei hoa tino whakangao : kahore he take o te kino ki a ia, ahakoa i etahi wa ka whakapataritari ia ia koe. Ka rite ki te pakaru i tetahi mea e mau ana te tamaiti.
He hoa takaro me te whakawhirinaki
Whakamuri. I ana keemu katoa, ko to tamaiti i arahina e tona whakaaro. E ere anei to ’na paraikete e tamahanahana ia ’na i te hoê hoa mau? E haamana‘o paha oe ia ’na i te tahi mau taime e “e ere i te mea mau” to ’na hoa, eiaha râ e tamata i te turai ia ’na. He tautohetohe koretake. Ko te tamaiti o tenei tau kaore e tino mohio i waenganui i te tino me te pohewa, ahakoa, karekau he rite te uara tohu o tenei taitapa ki a tatou pakeke. Mo te tamaiti, ahakoa kaore ia i te "tino", kei roto ia i tona ngakau, i roto i tona ao, a koinei te mea nui.
He "hoa" ka awhina ia ia ki te tipu
Mena ka akiakihia koe e to tamaiti ki te uru atu ki te keemu, whai i to parapara me to hiahia. He rawe pea te korerorero ki tenei Lilo, engari mena ka raru koe, me kii kaore. Kaua te hoa pohewa e patai ki nga tikanga o te noho whanau, te āhua o te tamaiti. Mena ka noho he whakama, he herenga, he raru tera. Me timata ma te korero me to loulou, kia kite koe me pehea tana titiro ki nga mea. Engari ka taea e ia anake te korero ki a koe nga take ka taea e te tamaiti. “Ko te hoa pohewa he nui rawa te waahi ka haere mai ki te korero mo tetahi raruraru kaore e taea te korero, engari he nui rawa te waahi i roto i te oranga o te tamaiti,” te whakamarama a Andrée Sodjinou.
Mena ka riro tenei hoa puna o te pakanga, patai ki te whakaheke mo te tohutohu. A tahi, a haere e hi‘opoa i rotopu i te mau taata paari: “E pinepine te fifi o te tamarii i te ta‘i i te mau vahi hinahina o te mau metua,” ta te taata tuatapapa i te pae no te feruriraa. Ka kitea pea e koe he aha me korero, me mahi ranei kia hoki ano te ahuatanga. He hoa pohewa kei reira awhina i te tamaiti kia tipu ake, ehara i te mea ke atu.