tirotiro
He pono ka kitea e tatou tetahi o ratou i roto i a maatau tokorua mena ka roa to noho tahi. Inara kare te aiteanga e kare toou akaipoipo e akamutu. He tohu tenei kua whakaaetia e koe nga mea ki te whai i to raatau huarahi, i te wa e hiahia ana te hononga ki te "arotake" ia wa.
Kaua e whakaaro mena ka rite to hoa ki te tirotiro i to marena, me whakautu koe i runga i te ahua. He huarahi ki waho o ia raruraru. Ka tukuna e o maatau tohunga.
1. Ka noho ia ki a koe, engari kaore i a koe.
Ko te tikanga kei roto i te ruma kotahi, engari me noho puku me te kore mahi tahi. «Kare e tau taua momo wa,» e kii ana te kaihaumanu whanau a Aaron Anderson o Denver, Colorado. "Ahakoa ka noho koe i te taha o tetahi ki tetahi i te ahiahi i muri i te mahi me te korero ki o hoa i runga i nga whatunga hapori, ma te ngakau, kaore koe i whai wa mo tenei i te ra?"
Whakaputa: haere mai he mea ka waiho e ia tana pona ki raro ka uru atu ki a koe.
2. Kare ia e whakauru atu ki a koe i roto i ana wiki, i muri mai ranei i te waa mahi.
Ko te nui kei konei. Ko te tutaki ki o hoa me te mahi whakangahau he mea tika ma koutou katoa, engari kaua e pau katoa o koutou wa waatea. “Tīmata ki te noho wehe, ki te mahi i nga mea e pai ana ki a koe, a kua wehe ke koe ki te noho motuhake,” e kii ana a Becky Whetstone, he kaihaumanu whanau mai i Little Rock, Arcasas.
Whakaputa: timata i te arearea tahi (haere i te ahiahi, hākinakina, kanikani ranei akomanga i roto i te papa) ka waiho ia ahiahi «mo te wairua.»
3. E kore rawa ia e patai, "I pehea to ra?"
Mēnā he hui ō kōrero parakuihi i roto i te tari logistic, me mahi tetahi mahi, ki te kore ka huri hei hoa pakihi. «Karangatia he paipa? — Ae e aroha. Na ka mau koe ki nga tamariki ka tono i te tina. Kei reira ano koe, o whakaaro me o wheako, o whakaaro o ia ra. He mea nui i te wa tuatahi i timata koe ki te taatai, a he mea nui inaianei.
Me timata koe ki te noho wehe, kua wehe ke koe ki te noho wehe.
Whakaputa: “Ka mutu, na te mea kua tata ia ki waho o to oranga, ehara i te mea me hoatu e koe he whakautu hangarite,” e kii ana a Aaron Anderson. — Kaua e whakaroa me te kore whawhai! Patai atu ki a ia me pehea te haere o te ra, he aha te mahi i tenei ra - anga whakamua. Mēnā he mahi noa i kore koe e whai wā ki te kōrero, ka roa te wā ka hoki anō koe ki tō hiahia o mua ki a koe anō.
4. Kei te pirangi ia ki te taatai.
Kua kore te mahi nanakia, kua ngaro te puku - a te ahua nei kei te harikoa to hoa ki tenei. Ka tupu tenei mo etahi take. Ka taea e koe te whakaaro mo ratou i a koe e noho ana i roto i ou kakahu i roto i te kihini me te patipati i ou taha porotaka.
I te timatanga o te whanaungatanga, ka mau koe i a koe ano ka noho tahi koe i ia rua o te ora i roto i ona whakaaturanga katoa. Ko te ahua o te tuwhera he mea kino: ko te tikanga, ko nga mahi, a, ko te mutunga, ka ngaro te hiahia. "Ka karohia te whanaungatanga tinana ina mamae ana o ngakau," ko ta Jenny Ingram, he kaiwhakaora whanau i Nashville, Tennessee. — Kaua e whakatuwhera rawa, waiho etahi «ruma» kati. Ko te noho pono me te noho poauau ehara i te timatanga pai mo te whanaungatanga roa.
Whakaputa: hoki mai te wahine, korero ki to hoa i te tuatahi hei tane.
5. He rite tonu tana whakahe ki o hoa me o whanau.
Ko to hoa hoa inaianei he waahanga ano o to whanau, engari kaore pea ia i te ahua pai ki a raatau. Me ngana ki te mohio ko nga korero i tukuna ki tetahi o to whanau, ahakoa ko wai, he korero i tukuna atu ki a koe. He whanonga kore e whakaaetia tenei.
Whakaputa: “Kōrerotia tonutia,” te kī a Becky Whetstone. "Kaua e timata i a koe ake, kaua hoki e tuku i to hoa ki te korero mo o hoa me o whanau, na te mea ka takahia e ratou o rohe ka waiho koe kaore he tautoko." Kia kore ai e puta i te mutunga ko ia — te tino pai, me etahi atu — to whanau, tae atu ki a koe.